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Feeling really overwhelmed right now, my daughter is starting school next week and we are still having issues with her wetting herself. She only ever had one accident at kinda and when we go out for the day she doesn't have accidents but at home she can wet herself 2 to 3 times a day and when it does she doesn't even seem to notice, I tell her to go and change herself and she asks me why, I tell her she has wet herself and then she looks at her pants and is devistated. She seems to get so involved in what she is doing that she just forgets. I asked myself why this doesnt happen at kinda? Is it the fact they have a routine whith coming inside and going to the toilet? I am so scared she will be labelled as the child who wets herself at school.
I just feel it is laziness and we have tried the nice approach {oh well accidents happen, you really need to concentrate} as I didn't want to make her feel bad and then in turn hide it from me. We have tried the naughty laundry, making her wash her own pants, no story at bedtime and yet nothing seems to work. I have become so stressed about this that we have resorted to threatening her with the fact that she wont be able to go to school and now I am just feeling like such a bad parent for doing that.
Is it laziness, if so what do I do, can it be something else? She says she feels the need to go and doesn't know why she doesn't go. I am constantly reminding her to go and she always argues that she doesn't need to, only to then go to the toilet and come ot saying Mum you'r magic guess what happenned... I did a wee!

I think maybe you could take her to a Dr to see if there isn't an underlying problem causing this. SHe is probably not being naughty, she might just be 'forgetting' because she is so excited and engrossed in what she is doing. Maybe it will pass in time? I can understand your fear though as kids can be cruel. I noticed you posted this a while ago, so I hope this problem is resolved for you by now, but if not, try a DR and failing that, maybe you could talk to her teachers, because I'm betting they would have seen this before and probably would be able to lead you in the right direction or at least tell you what the other mums did?

Good luck.
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There's probably an underlying issue here other than just plain laziness. It could be because she's scared to go the bathroom alone? Or was traumatized before? Or issues about independence or attention. I do hope that you solve it soon. Try reading books, or yeah, seek help from experts.