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#115

tantrums / naughty corner 2 Years, 6 Months ago

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Hi

Our 2.5 year old flicked some internal switch of sorts and from zero, is now in tantrum mode, which is developmental progress.

We have hardly ever needed to use the naughty corner in the past, and where we have, it was very effective.

Now however, he just keeps running out in a screaming frenzy. I keep thinking "N+1" - that is, all I need to do in place him back in, only ONCE more than he runs/crawls/walks out screaming. After 15 or 20 times, possibly more, he gets to a crying/hiccup state saying sorry and wanting to get out.

During this, he clearly cannot be reasoned with and my concern is that to reward him with accepting the sorry then (which right now I am doing), means he has not really spent any time in the corner and all I'm doing is just reinforcing the escape behaviour.

any suggestions?

jerry

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#118

Re: tantrums / naughty corner 2 Years, 6 Months ago

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We have a time out mat rather than a corner. My daughter has to sit on it where ever I put it. But if I am in the front of the house she does not like to have to sit on the time out mat if it is at the back of the house vise versa. She can still see what is going on, she is just not allowed to participate or talk. Cath Oehlman - Squiggle mum put up a good blog on this topic it would be good to check out. If all else fails maybe strap him into a booster seat/ highchair in the corner 'till he gets the picture.

rizoleey

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#119

Re:tantrums / naughty corner 2 Years, 5 Months ago

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Hi Jerry,

Can't our toddlers be lovely little angels, especially when they are screaming out in tantrums . .

I know this sounds harsh but you need to learn to turn off your ears!! . . Sometimes ignoring the tantrums is just as bad as the time out method. You toddler is really determined to try and show you that he is boss . .

As for the corner, perhaps a mat would be better and make sure that you are only placing him on that mat for 2 minutes . . Every time he gets off, simply place him on the mat and walk off again...

As for his getting himself worked up, you need to ignore it. My eldest now (18) used to do this too and even held her breath until she fainted. . At first I freaked out but my GP advised that she couldn't be harmed by this and advised me not to react . . The little tyke would scream, yell, kick and hit and then hold her breath - she would then faint and when she came too she would simply get up, looked confused and then go back to playing . .

Goodluck . . . Cheers Kellz

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#122

Re:tantrums / naughty corner 2 Years, 5 Months ago

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Hi Jerry

I still have this behaviour at almost 3.5 years, so it's something you have to get used to. Yes it is a developmental stage, but a very frustrating one.

We have a naughty room, which still does the trick. Only very occasionally does the room have to be used more than once on a naughty occasion. If we are out I find a naughty room or mat wherever I go and he knows it will be used if he continues his behaviour.

Having said that though, tantrums themselves are exhausting for everyone. Silly me, I'll have to do it all again in two years with our baby!

Johanna

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#124

Re:tantrums / naughty corner 2 Years, 5 Months ago

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Oh I so hear you on the tantrum front. We had a rough time with them for a while, though things are starting to settle now. You can read my post on tantrums or download my tantrum tracker if you like. It's free - just a way of keep track of how often tantrums happen and possible triggers. Hang in there!! If you need to, walk away yourself, take a few deep breaths, and then go back and deal with the tantrum!

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Re:tantrums / naughty corner 11 Months, 2 Weeks ago	Karma: 0
We've been trying alot of different methods, but the most successful for the moment is taking away their favourite toy and keeping it until a certain amount of time you have decided on. It works best with my 5 year old, but we've been doing it with our 3 year old too and seems to be currently working. You could try this one.